Thave dated a lot in my life. When I was young, I was obsessed with dating. I didn’t like being single, and I enjoyed the process of getting to know someone new and developing a relationship. I wasn’t just in it to date, though. I was it in to find a relationship like my parents had. A happy, fulfilling, and joyful relationship that would last and last and last… The Problem I Had With Dating But, the problem was that I was so focused on a finding relationship that I didn’t really focus on what kind of guy I was really dating or what kind of guy I really wanted.
Often, I would fool myself into thinking I was dating a nice guy with big potential when really I was dating someone addicted to drugs, not ready to commit, or someone with complete opposite viewpoints and morals in life. Oh man, looking back I cringe at my dating life. I found love in all the wrong places, and I can clearly see that now. But at the time, it was all I knew, so it felt right to me. For instance, I met one guy on a camping/party trip who was openly smoking crack in front of me. Of course, I instantly fell in love with him?
He was cute and funny, and that was good enough for me! I closed my eyes to his drug problem and pretended that he was everything I was ever looking for. Then I suffered for years as he struggled with his addiction. My eyes were really closed with that guy. I remember him telling me about his big tax refund, and I thought he was going to take us out with it or something, but it disappeared the day he got it. He told me that he gave it to his brother to hold onto so that he could buy me a ring later.
I believed him. I even believed him when his friend told me he had smoked it. After a while, I started to expect that I would attract a jerk into my life. “Why do I always attract jerks?! ” was something I said a lot. Now I can see that it was the law of attraction and I was unable to attract anything else. I felt like I deserved jerks after a while. I felt like I was supposed to change them and make them better. I felt like I was a strong person because I could handle someone who didn’t treat me right.
How could I bring anything but a jerk into my life with that mentality? Getting Clear On What I Want – And Asking For It One day I had enough. My friends would always say that the perfect guy would come when you least expect it, and I decided to take that belief to heart. I created a list of what a perfect guy looked like to me. The list was a little weird, but at the time it was very important to me because I had learned who I was and what I was looking for. So, it went like this: Must have a job Must have a car Must be funny Must play an instrument
Must love dogs Must have goals Must be tall Must NOT do drugs Must be family orientated Must accept me for who I am I posted it on my fridge and read it every time I went to make something to eat. Believing In The Power Of My List For a while, I enjoyed being single. I still had the hope of finding a relationship like my parents, but I didn’t need it so bad that | would accept a guy who didn’t fit my criteria on my list. I believed that using my list as a criteria list was going to help me find the perfect guy.
I no longer believed that accepting any guy into my life had the potential to make me happy. At the time, I didn’t know about the law of attraction. I had just heard over and over that creating a list would help me to find love. But, looking back it was clearly the law of attraction working for me. Receiving The Man Of My Dreams I started to really feel as though I was doing something great for myself. I knew that I was going to find the man of my dreams. In fact, I felt it with every fiber of my being! I knew how good it was going to feel, and I was looking forward to it!
I was in my early twenties, so I was going out with friends quite a bit. One day my friend invited a guy from work who I didn’t really know. He was cute, but I didn’t know anything about him. Turns out, he fit my list perfectly. He even played guitar, had two dogs, and never did drugs. We got to know each other and took our time (a first for me), and we are still together today – over 11 years later. And, with hindsight, he has one quality on my list that I didn’t really know at the time. He is the most accepting person I have ever met in my life.
He never puts me down. Never tells me I’m doing something wrong. He lets me be me at all times, and I love that about him so much! The Law Of Attraction And Me Finding Love Ask, believe, and receive. These are the three elements of the law of attraction that everyone talks about. And without knowing it, I used them to find the perfect man for me. There is a reason a list works so well. It helps you clearly see what you want ask for it) and gives you hope that you are going to find it (allows you to believe).
In fact, you start to expect that you will find it without question because it is your intention! And, when you keep your eyes open, you can see the signs leading you to your desire and receive it with open arms. [poll id=”4″] Abraham Explains Attracting A Specific Lover When it came to finding love, I didn’t have a specific person in mind. I had a list, that defined what kind of person I wanted, but I didn’t have him picked out. If you have a specific person in mind that you want to attract, Abraham has some good advice!
