Love is not always enough to sustain a marriage. In her book Why Marriages Fail, Anne Roiphe explores the various reasons why marriages fall apart.
One of the most common reasons cited by Roiphe is a lack of communication. Couples may stop communicating effectively, or may never have developed good communication skills in the first place. This can lead to misunderstandings and resentment, which can eventually tear a marriage apart.
Another reason marriages fail is when one or both partners are unfaithful. Infidelity can cause trust issues and make it difficult for the relationship to recover.
Money problems are also often cited as a reason for divorce. Money troubles can put a strain on a marriage, especially if the couple is struggling to make ends meet.
There are many other reasons why marriages fail, but these are some of the most common ones. If you’re having problems in your marriage, it’s important to seek help from a counselor or therapist who can help you work through them.
Married life may be quite challenging. They need a wide range of abilities. We can see many different viewpoints on marriage when we examine marriages throughout the world. We’re all familiar with American culture and our attitude towards marriage. Anne Roiphe’s article “Why Marriages Fail” paints a rather gloomy picture of American marriage. It is primarily a critical examination of US marriage.
The first reason given by Roiphe is that many American marriages are based on love, and we all know how fickle love can be. “Love,” she says, “is not a good foundation for a long-term relationship.” She goes on to say that in most cultures, marriages are not based on love. They are based on other things like economic need or political alliance.
Another reason given by Roiphe is that Americans expect too much from marriage. We see marriage as a way to achieve happiness, and when it doesn’t make us happy, we think there must be something wrong.
Roiphe also talks about the high divorce rate in America and how that contributes to the failure of marriages. She says that divorce is often seen as the easy way out, and it can be hard on both the spouses and the children.
In conclusion, Roiphe believes that American marriages fail because they are based on love, we expect too much from them, and the high divorce rate means that there are often not enough marriages to go around.
While Roiphe’s article is pessimistic, it does offer some insight into why American marriages might be failing. It is important to remember, though, that not all marriages end in divorce. There are many happy, successful marriages out there. The key is to learn from the mistakes of others and to try to make your marriage the best it can be.
The article “It Takes a Village to Make a Relationship” by Sobonfu Some tries to show us the positive aspects of her culture through writing. Ms.Some is from a small village in West Africa, and she represents the Dagara tribe. In her opinion, marriages within her culture are close to perfect.
In her village, it is very normal for a woman to have more than one husband and it is also very common for the husbands to be friends with each other. There are many benefits to this type of arrangement that Ms. Some tries to explain.
The first benefit is that there are more people to help raise the children. In our culture, it is very common for children to be raised by their grandparents or even by paid babysitters. In Ms. Some’s village, it is not only the responsibility of the mother to take care of the children, but it is also the responsibility of the fathers and the other members of the community. This ensures that the children are always surrounded by people who love them and who will take care of them.
Another benefit of this type of arrangement is that the wives are not left alone when their husbands are away. In our culture, it is very common for wives to be left alone for long periods of time while their husbands are working or traveling. This can lead to a lot of loneliness and boredom. In Ms. Some’s village, however, the wives have the company of other wives and they are never left alone for very long.
The last benefit that Ms. Some mentions is that there is less fighting in these types of marriages. In our culture, it is very common for couples to fight about money, about sex, about religion, about raising the children, etc. In Ms. Some’s village, however, the husband and wife are not the only people responsible for the marriage. They have the support of the community, so if there are any problems, they can be worked out without resorting to fighting.
So, while our culture looks at marriage as a contract between two people, Ms. Some’s village looks at it as a contract between two families. And, while our culture often sees marriages as failing, Ms. Some’s village sees them as being very successful.
It will be difficult to compare and contrast the two pieces, because each one offers just one perspective. However, I will do my best to demonstrate how the Americans and Dagaras are similar as well as different in terms of sexuality and conflict.
The first big difference that I noticed was in the area of sexuality. In “Why Marriages Fail”, Anne Roiphe argues that American marriages often fail because couples do not have a good sexual relationship. She believes that sex is very important in a marriage, and if the couple is not sexually compatible, the marriage will not last.
Dagaras marriages are different in the way they approaching sexuality. Dagara people see sex as something that is done for procreation, and not for pleasure. Therefore, they do not believe that sex is as important in a marriage as Americans do.
The second area where I noticed similarities and differences was in the area of conflict. In both cultures, it is normal for couples to have disagreements and argue with each other.
However, the way that Americans and Dagaras handle conflict is different. In American marriages, it is often seen as a bad thing when couples argue. Roiphe says that “the ideal of ‘no conflict’ is one of the many things that American marriages cannot live up to” (Roiphe).
Dagaras handle conflict differently. They believe that it is normal and even necessary for couples to have arguments. They see conflict as a way to help the couple resolve their differences and grow closer to each other.