Cheating Fiasco A relationship is meant for two people only, but some can’t seem to count. In today’s society, there are more people being unfaithful to their mate everyday as if they were never committed to them, and that is just selfish. Cheating does not only affect someone emotionally, but also physically. The pain after a breakup from cheating can make a person have a negative outlook about being in a committed relationship, and this can also stop them from being happy with someone who can not only be a good candidate for them, but also faithful and loyal to them.
When I felt like cheating, I would always talk with my dad. He always said, “If you are unhappy, leave that person completely alone, done cheat on them”. (B. Robinson) He was right, and at that point I realized cheating was not the answer, but the actual problem. One reason cheating is selfish, is because the person who is cheating is normally untruthful. In fact, in Amber Jeanine’s article “How to Spot a Cheater”, she stated, “Cheaters lie”. (A. Jeanine) People that lie have to come up with several lies daily, about where they have been, where they are going, and even about how they feel.
They make up stories just to protect themselves and their feelings and not even think about their mate’s feelings. If in a relationship someone is lying about something they are stringing someone alone, whether if the lie is meant to be a joke or a serious matter. They are leading someone on, and are not really telling them the truth about how they feel. This can cause a lie to come into reality, and they may end up reciprocating the same lie they told their mate. Some people in relationships can, find out about the lies their boyfriend/girlfriend has told them, forgive hem, and then get even with them.
This means that, they can use the same lies one used against them to hurt them even worse than what they did to hurt them. Even though one may feel like they are getting away with lying to their mate, they really are just digging a ditch for themselves. Eventually everything comes to the light, and all lies that were told are exposed, and there goes a relationship down the drain. People can say that they are not happy, and their needs are not being met, but if one is still with the person and are cheating there is something obviously there that they want.
If people can think about the consequences that occur after hurting their mate with lies, they would understand the importance of being truthful to them. Lying is a selfish act, because one doesn’t care about who they hurt in the process, as long as it isn’t them which by far is selfish. The second reason cheating is selfish is, because one thinks that the grass is greener on the other side. They literally think that finding someone with better physical features, is someone that is worth leaving their mate.
They don’t stop, and think for once that the person they just met may possess qualities worse than what their mate possess. A person will destroy their relationship, based on a thought that the next person who they just met will be better than what they already have at home. A first impression may be everything to some people, but it does not explain how a person really is. When people meet for the first time, of course, everything will seem better. A person will put on their best acts, best clothes, and will show their best attitude until that day comes when they feel like they have that person’s undivided attention.
Then, there goes the real them. When a person leaves what they have because they think they found better, they only make matters worse for themselves. They don’t know if the person they just met is dating someone else, or is just playing with their heart. This can lead to one ending up alone. All of the hard work and effort they put into this new person can end up being something they did for nothing. There is no guarantee that this new person is interested in them, so one can risk giving their time and heart to the wrong person.
There will be many temptations, with looks, age, and chemistry, but that doesn’t mean it will work out. If a person thinks that leaving their mate to be with someone else is a selfish act, because one is only thinking about themselves, and thinking like that will have them end up with the only person they were thinking about, and that’s themselves. The third reason cheating is selfish is because a person doesn’t realize the mental state that they put people through when they cheat on them. They sometimes think about their mate’s feelings, but in most cases they continue pleasing themselves.
They think one sided, and put their feelings in their back pockets. Cheating can harm a person’s outlook on a relationship in the future, which is not fair for the next eligible person. They can end up depressed: which can take away from acting upon their daily chores, job, being a parent, and being able to cope with life. Some people take cheating very hard, and they end up sick, not wanting to eat, or eating more than usual to hide the pain. This can affect their appearance, the outlook they have about themselves, and the outlook their peers have on them as well.
When someone has to go through being cheated on, it’s hard dealing with everything that they are use to dealing with. The person who is cheating may feel like it doesn’t have anything to do with them, but it does. People will look at them differently, and make potential mates not be interested in them as well. A person’s sanity is extremely important in relationships, so it’s important to think how much damage a person can be harming someone all because they want to cheat with the next person, for their own pleasure.
This is selfish, because not once is the person’s livelihood thought about in the process. However, there are some people who think otherwise about cheating. Some people feel like cheating is the right thing to do, because it allows them to not hurt their mate up front. They feel as if they get a chance to be free from whatever problem they are dealing with in their relationship, and they also feel as long as their mate doesn’t find out it is not considered cheating.
People feel like cheating is their getaway to happiness, and there way of receiving what they are not receiving from their relationship. In fact, I feel like this is selfish, and not the right way to think. I feel like if the person they are dating is causing them to go the extent to cheat then, they should just leave them alone. I don’t understand the reason for staying with that person, if they are lacking in areas that one wants or need. If a person is unhappy, not satisfied, and just tired of being with that specific person do not stay, leave.
The best thing one can do is get out of the situation that makes them think about cheating or cheat, it’s not worth the hassle. Cheating on someone while in a committed relationship is a selfish act. It’s not okay because in the process, you have to lie to your mate, which can cause the lie turning back around on you. Also, you cheat on the person you with because you think the grass is greener on the other side, and when you find it doesn’t you end up with nothing because you end up finding out how a person really is.
Lastly, you can mess up a person’s outlook on a relationship in the future, mess up their health and make them depressed all because you wanted to be selfish and cheat on them. Cheating is not cool, and it doesn’t give permanent relief from the situation you are going through. Hopefully, in future people will start thinking about long term affect cheating will have on a person’s life, and just leave them all together instead of cheating on them. If you are not happy, and you don’t want to work on fixing the issues your relationship has, just leave for the sake of you and your lover’s heart. Cheating is not the answer.
